I've done it again. No, I didn't forget to remove my prior day's underwear from the pant leg of my jeans so it peeks out from the bottom when I wear the jeans again, but rather, I signed up on (another) dating website. Now I've been down this road before--I feel an old comraderie with Match.com and there have been a few others that I don't care to mention here. I either get bored with the whole culture of "winking" and "poking" or I end up in brief correspondences with women that suddenly fall off the face of the earth. It doesn't upset me--how could it, I've never had the opportunity to meet any of them face to face. There have been a few first-dates here and there--most of them pleasant, most of them unmemorable, and a few (one) that was pretty horrific (but at least memorable).
Due to this lackluster track record with Match, I was kind of hesitant to dip my toe into the cyber-dating waters again. But a fellow single-lady coworker of mine suddenly seemed to experience a surge of dates, and upon inquiring as to the vehicle of her success, she directed me towards a site I had never heard of--OkCupid.com. Okay, the name is cheesy and to be expected, but honestly, the application and site itself is, I shudder to say it, fun. It's more like a Facebook than anything else, and although it does have the characteristics of typical dating sites--the winks, the match percentage, the who's viewed your profile--there's more of a carefree aspect to it. I'm not sure what it is--I find that when I'm perusing through profiles or taking their little tests, I'm not clenching my butt cheeks together and stressing out as to whether or not I'm coming off as a stalker or a tool or a combo of both. It's a website that actually (gasp) allows people to interact without the hangups that naturally happen when you begin corresponding with someone on a website that's sole purpose is to form relationships between singles.
Maybe it's this--or, maybe it's the fact that for some reason I've been experiencing a lot of activity (read winks, emails, actual interest) since signing up. I'm not used to this attention, so I guess I'm singing OkCupid's praises and touting it as, like, the BEST website ever! I'm sure this will change once I get blown off, stood up, and/or blindsided by crazies. Or has the cycle been broken?
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